Today I was that mom. You know the one. The one is emotional, irrational, angry, and doesn't care who knows it. You have wronged one of her babies and you will fix this and you will make it happen now.
Well, in a perfect world that's exactly how it would happen. In reality, it will be fixed but definitely not as quickly as I would like and I may have caused more harm than good.
Let me start by saying that as a teacher I ALWAYS side with my kids teachers. ALWAYS. I hear all kinds of crazy stories from my kids and I think, there is no one that a teacher would say that or there is no way that a teacher would do that. If the teacher claims you didn't do the assignment then that is on you not on the teacher until one kiddo shows me a paper with a grade on it and the teacher put it in the grade book as a zero. I can overlook that. Really I can. And I'll even defend the teacher that they have a lot of kids and it is your responsibility if you see a zero when you have the graded assignment to talk to the teacher. Advocate for yourself. Be responsible.
But what if the teacher is wrong? Like worse than just not entered 1 grade wrong in the grade book wrong? I know she's wrong. The teacher knows she's wrong but refuses to admit it. The administrators I talk to say she's wrong. We all agree, she's wrong but no one is willing to do anything to fix it.
Well, that's when I have to be "the one". I never want to be "the one". In fact, I resent the teacher just a bit for forcing me to have no other choice. My job as a parent is to raise my kids right and teach them to be responsible and if someone is sabotaging those efforts, well, then it is my job to advocate for them.
So as much as I hate it .... I'm "that mom".
Good for you. I know you make your kids take responsibility for their behavior, good or bad, but it is someone's responsibility (not necessarily yours) to make sure the adults in their life also take responsibility for their behavior, good or bad. You go mama.
ReplyDeleteI hate it but I put it off long enough and now I've had enough. It's amazing how the adults preach how the kids need to be responsible but then won't take responsibility themselves. Yes my kiddos are knuckleheads sometimes but they are kids.
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